I have had a little something on my mind...a goal, if you will. It is pretty simple, but profound.
It is simply the power of the word "SURE".
My goal: To replace "if you want", "I don't care", "That's fine", "Ok", "Whatever", etc with the word "SURE", in repsonse to my kids inquiries.
The impact of such a small word is profound. Without fail it is received with a huge smile and most times a big squeeze and a happy child! The answer is the same, in a sense, as it would have been with the other phrases, but there is a difference in the way that it is received. It is one small word that delievers support, confidence and love.
I have been a user of the phrase, "I don't care" for a long time. However, the energy of it is so different. It is negative. It sends a message of "I don't really want you to, but I don't want to deal with it." How sad is that?! I mean if I am saying I don't care, that is the message they get....I don't care.
Thank goodness for change, right?! :)
Now, think about the power of example.
Don't your kids respond using the same phrases you use? (Sometimes much to our dismay). What if they pick up this lovely little word and use it right back at us? Oh, I like the thought of that! If they did it would make me want to hold them down and smooch their cheekers until they beg for release!
So, here is the experiment. Try using it. It is going to require you to think about how you are answering to everything, but the results are worth it!
"Mom, can you get me a drink?" SURE
"Mom, can I go play at my friends?" SURE
"Mom, will you play a game with me?" SURE
"Mom, do I have to eat my veggies?" SURE! (Hahaha..ok, I am not sure how that will be received)
There are times when "No" is required, but let's just see what the power of replacing our "Yes" responses with "SURE" are. Then of course report! I would love to hear your thoughts on this!