Monday, July 12, 2010
We've Got Personality.....
So, you have heard about PERSONALITY TYPES…right?! There are squares, circles, yellow & red, owls, monkeys and all other ways to give a name to our own personal insanity. Well a few weeks ago a friend of mine taught us a bit about the importance of knowing your personality type and recognizing it in others. I’m not going to lie….it was SO MUCH FUN! That whole night we were laughing and teasing each other about which animal we fell in line with. It was fun….and so very informative.
There is no such thing as a “BAD” personality type. Meaning, if you are a Lamb, Owl, Tiger or Bull (which are the animals we used in the tests we were taking)…it doesn’t make you better or worse than anyone else. I loved that my friend that taught the class emphasized that over and over. Then the best part is she talked about balance. Developing the positive characteristics of each of the personality types in ourselves. Then we are able to better ourselves and better relate to others.
I love my hubby…that really isn’t a secret to anyone. I mean….the guy is stinking amazing! :) We are different. Sometimes aggravatingly so. I am a Tiger (think Tigger) with Owl (which you will know more about in a minute). Being heavy on the Tiger means I like to just jump into things. I am all about the fun side of things. Thank goodness for the Owl, which helps me stay a bit more organized and level headed! My hubby is an Owl with Lamb. He has to analyze EVERYTHING. Before he jumps he has made sure without a single bit of doubt that it is the best choice. He is thorough. Painfully thorough.
I get a bit impatient with it at times. I let him know by teasing him about bringing everything but the kitchen-sink (surely if he thought we would need that also, he would find the best way to bring it along). He tells me that it is always best to be prepared and then…when we are on a perfect summer day hike, me in shorts, Ryan in pants with a bulging backpack (I mean its just a couple hours!) and a freak rainstorm hits, he casually pulls ponchos from his back pack. I shake my head, simultaniously grateful and annoyed by his "rightness" in being TOTALLY prepared! I snack on my mockery for a while. Apologize. Then tell him I would be a mess without him. To which he replies, “I know”. Hahaha!
On the flip side, I am sure that if he didn’t have me and my un-ending supply of optimism he would surely turn into a black cloud and would be lost without hope! :) At least that is how we optimists would view those that suffer from pessimistic thinking…a.k.a. constant self-reassurance of the impending doom. :)
It has given me more patience knowing it is just the way he does things because he is him. I am certain he has scratched his head at my actions a time or two….or more…maybe, but it’s just me. It’s how I roll, as we say! :) We balance each other out!
So, I am going to do one of the personality tests with you. I will list a whole bunch of characteristics. On a separate piece of paper write a number from four to one for each characteristic. Let’s start there! (Test and theories by Charles Clarke Consulting.)
4= is most like you 3=is moderately like you
2=is moderately not like you 1=is least like you
This is how YOU see yourself…not how others see you! It would be fun to have a spouse or friend take the test about you and see where they think you fall! But let’s start on you doing the test on you!
___ Mathmatical ___ Analytical ___ Prefer Security to Prestige
___ Methodical ___ Judgemental ___ Does not like over excitement
___Detailed ___ Realist ___ Checking balance down to penny
___ System Oriented ___Non-Risk Taker ___Always on Time
___ Slow Paced ___ Perfectionist ___ Clothes hung up every night
___ Exacting ___ Conscientious ___ Major decisions are thought over
___ Enjoy being alone ___ Neat-Neat (Everything always in its place)
TOTAL _______ (add up all the numbers you entered in the above section)
___ Amiable ___ Passive ___ On time for fear of others opinions
___ Unhurried ___ Sensitive ___ Indecisive
___ Kind ___ Cooperative ___ Avoids Conflict
___ Warm ___ Patient ___ Slow to make decisions
___ Mild ___ Steady ___ Frequently changes mind
___ Dependable ___ Non-Judgemental ___ Likes other peoples' opinion
___ Security more important than prestige
___ Hard Driving ___ Commanding ___ Bottom line is important
___ Fearless ___ Cynical ___ Likes people to get to the point
___ Brazen ___ Courageous ___ Prestige & Status more important than security
___ Authoritative ___ Bold ___ Fast decision maker
___ Competitive ___ Decisive ___ Prefers others to picu up for them
___ Venturesome ___ Organizer ___ Loves a challenge
___ Risk Taker ___ Organized Messy Person (Looks like a mess but they know where everything is)
___Expressive ___ Overflowing ___ Very socially oriented
___ Talkative ___ Promoter ___ High risk taker
___ Dreamer ___ Hospitable ___ Social relationships very important
___ Trusting ___ Eager ___ Recognition very important
___ Fun Loving ___ Optimistic ___ Throws clothes when taken off
___ Enthusiastic ___ Often Late ___ Not into detail (prefers others to do it for them)
___ Often late ___ Messy-Messy
Now…add up the total points for each section. Write an O by the first section total. Write an L by the second section total. B by the third and T by the fourth.
Which section got the highest number? That is your primary personality type.
Which section got the 2nd highest? This is your secondary.
O= Owl L=Lamb B=Bull T=Tiger
I am way heavy on Tiger with Owl. Bull is only 2 points behind my Owl score and my Lamb score is 12 points below that.
So, now what are we going to do with this information? Well, tomorrow I am going to give you the information to help you understand what this means, what to expect from others, how to recognize others personality types so you can communicate more effectively, develop more patience and hopefully strengthen relationships!
Until then, test away! Have your family and friends take the test. When we piece it all together tomorrow you won’t be able to stop yourself from “profiling” (in a good way, please) everyone you meet! It’s pretty fun!